Stop asking the same question

There is no point in asking a question over and over again. The answer was ready the first time your question popped up.

But you were way too preoccupied with the question to notice the answer.

To hear an answer you’ll have to stop verbalizing the question first. Otherwise you’ll hear more of yourself instead of what you were asking for.

Reality is not worth arguing for

Arguing for your limitations is stubbornly insisting that “this is reality”,

“i’m just born this way”,

“that’s the way things are”.

The more you insist on it, the truer it gets for you. And then you insist on it more.

Arguing for your limitations doesn’t get you where you want to go. It just strengthens the familiar reality. That same reality which inspired you to change.

Can you really go somewhere, when you don’t want to leave where you are?

Arguing for your limitations is when you list the reasons why things are not working out, instead of focusing on the reason that got you started.

Instead of “I want it, but…” use “I want it, because…” to focus on the warm and fuzzy feeling that got you wanting this in the first place.

On being resourceful

What aren’t you using but you have ready lying around?

What can you use again from what you’ve got?

Do you have any by-products you can ship?

Are they valuable to someone else?

How could they be valuable to someone else?

Your ToDo list is killing you

Having a meter long daily to-do list kills you with expectations. Not having the list on paper, but still adding to it on your mind is even more stressful.

To stop the war between expectation and reality, let one of them give up.

You can better manage your expectations than sustainably create 5 additional work hours in your day and be on top of your game during them.

So, list out all of your expectations for the day. Cut 80% of them. Then cut again. Now you have one thing to do. Performance anxiety and overwhelm are not a factor anymore. You can focus and actually get a chance to get it off your plate so you don’t have to consider it again tomorrow.